Before you shout “Yes!” to that sweet wedding party proposal, there are a few things you should know. We came up with a list of the top things you should consider BEFORE agreeing to be in a wedding. From costs and expectations to the time commitment and more, here is the inside scoop!
Being in a wedding party is bound to be expensive.
Committing to being in a wedding is committing to the costs included. Wedding showers, bachelor/ette parties, and pre-wedding events, along with the cost of your wedding day attire, hair, makeup, and any other additional expenses, will add up quickly, so be prepared.
It’s ok to say no.
It’s better to be honest and upfront than say yes and get yourself stuck in a pickle. If the soonlywed knows from the get go that you cannot be a part of their big day, then they can plan accordingly. Backing out later in the game could lead to a logistical nightmare and, more importantly, hurt feelings.
If you’re ever unsure of expectations, just ask.
If you have questions, there are most likely others in the wedding party that do too. Skip the stress and hassle…just ask!
Drama has no place in wedding planning.
The role of a wedding party member is to stand by the soonlywed’s side and add good vibes to the day. Don’t be that person that creates a headache for other party members or – even worse – the engaged couple! Additionally, if other party members have drama, steer clear!
Good communication is key.
It is essential to know where to be and when, what your role and responsibilities are, and the expected costs. Everyone involved in the wedding party should openly communicate to avoid any confusion.
You should get to know the future spouse and other wedding party members.
A group party for wedding party members is a great way to get to know one another. You all clearly mean a lot to the engaged couple, so having everyone mingling before the big day will ensure a smooth celebration.
Offering your time, help, or moral support will go a long way.
Soonlyweds often do need help, but don’t always directly ask. Offering up your support or helping hand consistently is a way to let them know you’re there if they need you. Also, planning a movie night or happy hour is a great way to give them some relaxation away from wedding planning.
You’ll need to be prepared on the wedding day.
Chances are you or someone is going to need snacks, a bobby pin, band-aid, deodorant, etc. on the day of the wedding. In addition to making sure you have your attire, speech (if necessary), and any other wedding day essentials, having an emergency kit on hand will make you an all-star wedding party member.
Have a good time, but be respectful of the celebration.
AKA don’t be that person that gets too wild and crazy. It’s okay to let loose, but don’t ruin the celebration for others.
